Articles

Ariel has published a number of articles on topics including parenting, feminism, sexism, gay marriage, the children of same-sex couples, reproductive rights, child support, masculinity, gender roles, homophobia, violence against women, and racism. Below are selected articles.



I WAS ASHAMED AND SILENT ABOUT BEING RAISED BY TWO WOMEN

Time Magazine, March 6, 2015

Having two mothers during my formative years saved me because it gave me the stability, support and love I needed. The shame I felt and the stigma I experienced was unnecessary. Children should not be stigmatized because their families are different from the "norm," whether they are raised in an interracial family, in a single-parent household or by a same-sex couple. Yet when the law does not recognize your family, stigma and fear are perpetuated and reinforced.

 

HEATHER BARWICK, DON’T LET YOUR PAIN HURT OTHER KIDS

Huffington Post, March 24, 2015

I grew up surrounded by an amazing community of feminists, some lesbians, revolutionary women who were authors, sculptors, painters, visionaries, radicals, speech givers and true leaders. These women taught me empathy . . . They taught me to be a man who loves women . . . and to fight for justice wherever I see injustice.

 

IF YOU'RE A MODERN DAD, YOU MIGHT JUST BE A FEMINIST

Time Magazine, May 18, 2014

If you believe that dads are capable of diapering, feeding and raising children as well as women can, you might be a feminist. If you are a stay-at-home dad and your wife (or husband) is the family breadwinner, you might be a feminist. And if you believe that dads deserve better paternity leave policies, you might be a feminist.

 

FATHER, HUSBAND—AND PROUD, PRO-HILLARY FEMINIST

The Daily Beast, October 17, 2016

I don’t only empathize with those who look like me or those who “belong” to me. As a human being who believes in justice and fairness, I am horrified about how we treat women—half the human race—as less than, inferior, to be objectified, minimized, and ignored. I want to live in a society in which everyone is valued, in which everyone is given opportunities and treated fairly simply because it is the right thing to do.

 

THE WEDDING WE NEVER THOUGHT WE’D HAVE

Tablet Magazine, January 3, 2018

But, if we were going to do this thing, if our community was to truly see us, and if we were to embrace Jewish tradition, we would have to make the tradition our own… In short, my genealogy and upbringing trained me to challenge and seek to improve upon things.

 

PRE-K FOR ALL? NOT FOR MY FAMILY: THE UPPER EAST SIDE HAS BEEN LEFT HANGING

New York Daily News, February 25, 2016

Children, particularly very young ones, should be able to attend schools near their home. That is why my eldest daughter was considered a priority when applying to our zoned elementary school for kindergarten, and why her sister will be considered a priority for that school. Why should pre-K be different?

 

I’M THE SON OF A FAMOUS SECOND-WAVE FEMINIST - AND WANT THE MEN OF TOMORROW TO BE DIFFERENT

Ravishly, December 5, 2014

What I learned from all this was how to listen to women, how to learn from them, how to honor their narratives…Good people of all sexes should be motivated to end gender inequality because patriarchal rules limit everyone's ability to be their whole selves.

 

THIS YEAR, ORANGE SEEDS ON THE SEDER PLATE

Tablet Magazine, March 31, 2015

The power of inclusive storytelling and representation is greatly diminished if it is shared with only daughters and not sons. Here, the audience is as important as the story.

 

THIS “NEW YORK TIMES” ARTICLE FROM THE ‘70S ON FEMINIST PARENTING IS STILL RELEVANT TODAY

Babble, July 27, 2016

First, feminist parenting is primarily about analysis and awareness and doing our best to raise non-sexist kids while living in a sexist society. Even we feminist parents have internalized sexism and remain works in progress, and so we must constantly challenge ourselves as well as our children. This work lasts a lifetime and will remain necessary until we are able to change the power structures in our society.

 

SHOW-AND-TELL FEMINISM FOR DADS OF DAUGHTERS

Ms. Magazine Blog, September 17, 2014

Looking at my own upbringing I can conclude that it was a combination of showing me and telling me that led to my understanding of the female experience.